Comments on: Trying So Hard to be Perfect! http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/07/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/ Tue, 22 May 2012 21:18:01 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Tammy http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/07/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-4002 Tammy Tue, 15 Jul 2008 00:22:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-4002 I'm late getting in on this...<br/>This post was to me...I'm one of these that worry about things being "right"...wonderful post for so many of us, Sandy!<br/><br/>Hugs,<br/>~Tammy I’m late getting in on this…
This post was to me…I’m one of these that worry about things being “right”…wonderful post for so many of us, Sandy!

Hugs,
~Tammy

]]> By: Robin Sue http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/07/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3969 Robin Sue Thu, 10 Jul 2008 19:38:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3969 Yup worked real hard to get over the "perfects". I have warmly accepted that I am not perfect and can now laugh at myself. Imperfection makes for better stories anyway! Yup worked real hard to get over the “perfects”. I have warmly accepted that I am not perfect and can now laugh at myself. Imperfection makes for better stories anyway!

]]> By: Frugal Musings http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/07/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3968 Frugal Musings Wed, 09 Jul 2008 18:53:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3968 This is something I've been working on. Thanks for the reminder. <br/><br/>You have such a lovely blog. Thanks for the comment you left at mine. That's how I found you. <br/><br/>Blessings This is something I’ve been working on. Thanks for the reminder.

You have such a lovely blog. Thanks for the comment you left at mine. That’s how I found you.

Blessings

]]> By: Donnetta (momrn2) http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/07/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3963 Donnetta (momrn2) Wed, 09 Jul 2008 15:07:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3963 Ah, the permission not to be perfect! I, for one, need to be reminded of that on a regular basis! Thanks! :-) Ah, the permission not to be perfect! I, for one, need to be reminded of that on a regular basis! Thanks! :-)

]]> By: Mrs. Jones http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/07/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3962 Mrs. Jones Wed, 09 Jul 2008 14:24:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3962 Hi Sandy!<br/><br/>Great post (as usual). I realized the other day that your lessons are finally starting to sink in with me! My husband and I used to entertain 1 time a year and it was so much work that we were exhausted afterward. We have casually invited people over SEVERAL times in the past couple months, and it was easy! I lowered my expectations and started thinking ahead. Thank you, thank you, thank you.<br/><br/>Oh, and I tried your chicken/salsa crockpot recipe. It's great!<br/><br/>~Heather Hi Sandy!

Great post (as usual). I realized the other day that your lessons are finally starting to sink in with me! My husband and I used to entertain 1 time a year and it was so much work that we were exhausted afterward. We have casually invited people over SEVERAL times in the past couple months, and it was easy! I lowered my expectations and started thinking ahead. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

Oh, and I tried your chicken/salsa crockpot recipe. It’s great!

~Heather

]]> By: Amy http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/07/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3961 Amy Wed, 09 Jul 2008 13:57:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3961 Love it! I found you thanks to Kim and "today's creative blog". I am one of those sort of newly married (3 years) and still trying to figure out what needs to be "perfect" and what doesn't really matter. <br/><br/>Any tips on throwing a baby shower?! Love it! I found you thanks to Kim and “today’s creative blog”. I am one of those sort of newly married (3 years) and still trying to figure out what needs to be “perfect” and what doesn’t really matter.

Any tips on throwing a baby shower?!

]]> By: ValleyGirl http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/07/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3960 ValleyGirl Wed, 09 Jul 2008 13:27:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3960 You know, it's only been in the last several months that I've finally just decided that I need to be okay with letting people find out I'm not a perfect housekeeper. I still obviously prefer my house to be somewhat neat and tidy, but certainly nothing like what I used to demand of myself before we had people over. You know, it’s only been in the last several months that I’ve finally just decided that I need to be okay with letting people find out I’m not a perfect housekeeper. I still obviously prefer my house to be somewhat neat and tidy, but certainly nothing like what I used to demand of myself before we had people over.

]]> By: Homesteader in Training http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/07/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3957 Homesteader in Training Wed, 09 Jul 2008 10:28:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3957 I used to stress out before our annual Christmas party. I would make everyone in my family miserable the day leading up to it. Everything had to be a certain way. My kids would offer to help and I wouldn't take it because it had to be done MY way by ME! I've loosened up quite a bit these days and have realized that the main reason for the get together is to just get together and enjoy one another's fellowship. It sure does make for less stress and the kids don't go into hiding any more lol. <br/>Blessings,<br/>Kim I used to stress out before our annual Christmas party. I would make everyone in my family miserable the day leading up to it. Everything had to be a certain way. My kids would offer to help and I wouldn’t take it because it had to be done MY way by ME! I’ve loosened up quite a bit these days and have realized that the main reason for the get together is to just get together and enjoy one another’s fellowship. It sure does make for less stress and the kids don’t go into hiding any more lol.
Blessings,
Kim

]]> By: abeachcottage http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/07/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3956 abeachcottage Wed, 09 Jul 2008 05:41:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3956 hey Sandy, thanks for your comment & the link but more thanks for your blog - I feel like a new woman, like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders, I no longer feel ashamed if things aren't quite right...hard to do sometimes in this world commercial world we live in, like I said before when I found your blog the penny dropped (it sure needed to lol!) <br/><br/>I now find myself wondering just who I can invite into my little cottage home next, who I can give the gift of hospitatlity to? isn't it weird what can happen in a week? <br/><br/>I truly believe God sent me to you - he works in Cyberspace too<br/><br/>oh and yes I am keeping those 3P's at the forefront of my mind<br/><br/>Sarah hey Sandy, thanks for your comment & the link but more thanks for your blog – I feel like a new woman, like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders, I no longer feel ashamed if things aren’t quite right…hard to do sometimes in this world commercial world we live in, like I said before when I found your blog the penny dropped (it sure needed to lol!)

I now find myself wondering just who I can invite into my little cottage home next, who I can give the gift of hospitatlity to? isn’t it weird what can happen in a week?

I truly believe God sent me to you – he works in Cyberspace too

oh and yes I am keeping those 3P’s at the forefront of my mind

Sarah

]]> By: ~nanashouse~ http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/07/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3955 ~nanashouse~ Wed, 09 Jul 2008 04:36:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3955 Abby,<br/>Don't tell anyone, but our front door is unlocked. All the ingredients are on the kitchen counter just waiting for you to re-create your beautiful pie! I could almost taste it through the computer :-)<br/>While God is perfect He only asks us to be growing! Abby,
Don’t tell anyone, but our front door is unlocked. All the ingredients are on the kitchen counter just waiting for you to re-create your beautiful pie! I could almost taste it through the computer :-)
While God is perfect He only asks us to be growing!

]]> By: Kim - ScrapToMyLu http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/07/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3953 Kim - ScrapToMyLu Wed, 09 Jul 2008 01:54:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3953 Sandy, I love your site. You always have the voice of reason.<br/>I have featured you today on Today's Creative Blog! Sandy, I love your site. You always have the voice of reason.
I have featured you today on Today’s Creative Blog!

]]> By: Kim http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/07/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3952 Kim Wed, 09 Jul 2008 00:24:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3952 Sandy,<br/><br/>Thanks so much for this reminder. I have really seen the sin of perfection in my life and it is my prayer that I won't pass it on to my daughters. Sandy,

Thanks so much for this reminder. I have really seen the sin of perfection in my life and it is my prayer that I won’t pass it on to my daughters.

]]> By: Barb http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/07/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3951 Barb Tue, 08 Jul 2008 21:52:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3951 YUM! Abby can come and make pie at our house anytime, brown bananas or otherwise! :o) YUM! Abby can come and make pie at our house anytime, brown bananas or otherwise! :o )

]]> By: nel http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/07/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3950 nel Tue, 08 Jul 2008 21:32:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3950 Such a hard lesson to learn. I'm only just getting a grip on it now but it's so worth it. Besides, if we allow our friends into our home when it's less than perfect, we're giving our friends the permission to be real in their own homes too. And isn't that what friendship is all about, somewhere to be real and be yourself :)<br/><br/>I love what you share on your blog. It's so encouraging. Thank you!<br/><br/>By the way, upside down or not, I would love a slice of Abby's banana cream pie, it looks absolutely delicious! What a sweetheart for helping you out like that. Such a hard lesson to learn. I’m only just getting a grip on it now but it’s so worth it. Besides, if we allow our friends into our home when it’s less than perfect, we’re giving our friends the permission to be real in their own homes too. And isn’t that what friendship is all about, somewhere to be real and be yourself :)

I love what you share on your blog. It’s so encouraging. Thank you!

By the way, upside down or not, I would love a slice of Abby’s banana cream pie, it looks absolutely delicious! What a sweetheart for helping you out like that.

]]> By: Irritable Mother http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/07/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3949 Irritable Mother Tue, 08 Jul 2008 20:21:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3949 I love this saying a friend shared with me several years ago, "If you're coming to see me, stop by anytime. If you're coming to see my house, please call ahead." <br/>I think when we realize people are more interested in us than our "perfect" house, schedule, etc., it's easier to give ourselves grace.<br/>Thanks for sharing these great thoughts! I love this saying a friend shared with me several years ago, “If you’re coming to see me, stop by anytime. If you’re coming to see my house, please call ahead.”
I think when we realize people are more interested in us than our “perfect” house, schedule, etc., it’s easier to give ourselves grace.
Thanks for sharing these great thoughts!

]]> By: GiBee http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/07/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3948 GiBee Tue, 08 Jul 2008 20:03:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3948 I used to be like this, but I feel like I've been delivered from perfectionism, praise God!<br/><br/>I find more and more that people are forgiving of an imperfect home. Many times, they don't even see it like we do... and worrying over a perfect home or meal is LESS important than the fellowship you enjoy by having a willing and open heart to invite people over. Despite your imperfections. After all -- they have imperfections too! I used to be like this, but I feel like I’ve been delivered from perfectionism, praise God!

I find more and more that people are forgiving of an imperfect home. Many times, they don’t even see it like we do… and worrying over a perfect home or meal is LESS important than the fellowship you enjoy by having a willing and open heart to invite people over. Despite your imperfections. After all — they have imperfections too!

]]> By: Mrs. Jules http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/07/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3947 Mrs. Jules Tue, 08 Jul 2008 19:20:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3947 That pie does look wonderful and is one of my favorites.<br/><br/>Great post! I've been kind of forced to let go of perfectionist habits due to summer entertaining. It's a good thing. ;) That pie does look wonderful and is one of my favorites.

Great post! I’ve been kind of forced to let go of perfectionist habits due to summer entertaining. It’s a good thing. ;)

]]> By: Cucina Cara Mia http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/07/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3945 Cucina Cara Mia Tue, 08 Jul 2008 18:52:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3945 My mother was a perfectionist! I think I went the opposite in caring for my own home, but always enjoyed cooking. Had about 18 people over on July 4th. It was not PERFECT, but it was fun. I like the bananas on top of the pie myself. My mother was a perfectionist! I think I went the opposite in caring for my own home, but always enjoyed cooking. Had about 18 people over on July 4th. It was not PERFECT, but it was fun. I like the bananas on top of the pie myself.

]]> By: Anonymous http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/07/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3946 Anonymous Tue, 08 Jul 2008 18:52:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3946 I really hope that I will learn more and more to react like this to my kids, when they mess up!<br/><br/>We spontanously invited our new Pastor and his wife for Dinner last Sunday - I had burned the mashed potatos slightly, fixed it and you could hardly tell it. Well I didn't say a word - we had a really good fellowship and a lot of fun - and I think they did, too.<br/>Thank you for your encouragement, just to do it, no to worry about perfection.<br/><br/>Dini - a formerly very reluctant entertainer I really hope that I will learn more and more to react like this to my kids, when they mess up!

We spontanously invited our new Pastor and his wife for Dinner last Sunday – I had burned the mashed potatos slightly, fixed it and you could hardly tell it. Well I didn’t say a word – we had a really good fellowship and a lot of fun – and I think they did, too.
Thank you for your encouragement, just to do it, no to worry about perfection.

Dini – a formerly very reluctant entertainer

]]> By: Jen http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/07/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3944 Jen Tue, 08 Jul 2008 17:58:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/trying-so-hard-to-be-perfect/#comment-3944 I dont ever fret about the food much its the cleaning the hosue that has to be perfect for me...every room....its an obsession. I know it sounds crazy...but I clean like a mad woman when company is coming. I have girlfriends coming over to walk tonight yet I'm cleaning the house like crazy.<br/>Her pie looks great by the way. I dont ever fret about the food much its the cleaning the hosue that has to be perfect for me…every room….its an obsession. I know it sounds crazy…but I clean like a mad woman when company is coming. I have girlfriends coming over to walk tonight yet I’m cleaning the house like crazy.
Her pie looks great by the way.

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