Comments on: Intimacy in Conversation – a Safe Place! http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/09/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/ Sat, 11 Feb 2012 13:03:44 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: sarah @ a beach cottage http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/09/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4751 sarah @ a beach cottage Wed, 10 Sep 2008 10:02:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4751 p.s. <br/><br/>thanks for your email re my link, I've changed it now I think, but i don't think I emailed you back to say thanks for letting me know<br/><br/>S<br/><br/>x p.s.

thanks for your email re my link, I’ve changed it now I think, but i don’t think I emailed you back to say thanks for letting me know

S

x

]]> By: sarah @ a beach cottage http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/09/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4750 sarah @ a beach cottage Wed, 10 Sep 2008 10:01:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4750 a very true post and got me thinking<br/><br/>I try, like all the time, to ask questions, questions and make sure I listen to the answer, I find that people love to talk about themselves if they see you are interested and not in an 'I am' kinda way. I suppose I just am nosey so I love to find out what people do and think, funnily enough today I sat having coffee with a couple of girlfriends who I am really only just getting to know on a deeper level and I found out that one of the girls' husbands boxes (as in in a boxing ring) as a hobby. I'm not sure what I thought about that, but whoa if I hadn't of been asking questions I wouldn't have found out at all<br/><br/>makes the world go round <br/><br/>love your blog Sandy, oh and beautiful pics of you and your sister<br/><br/>Sarah a very true post and got me thinking

I try, like all the time, to ask questions, questions and make sure I listen to the answer, I find that people love to talk about themselves if they see you are interested and not in an ‘I am’ kinda way. I suppose I just am nosey so I love to find out what people do and think, funnily enough today I sat having coffee with a couple of girlfriends who I am really only just getting to know on a deeper level and I found out that one of the girls’ husbands boxes (as in in a boxing ring) as a hobby. I’m not sure what I thought about that, but whoa if I hadn’t of been asking questions I wouldn’t have found out at all

makes the world go round

love your blog Sandy, oh and beautiful pics of you and your sister

Sarah

]]> By: Terri http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/09/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4749 Terri Wed, 10 Sep 2008 09:43:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4749 That is a nice story about the dinner party. I guess we all wish we could be that hostess! At least, I do. That is a nice story about the dinner party. I guess we all wish we could be that hostess! At least, I do.

]]> By: Ms. Tee http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/09/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4748 Ms. Tee Wed, 10 Sep 2008 03:33:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4748 What a great story about the Italian dinner. I've learned over time that our guests are much more relaxed when the dinner is casual and we're relaxed. It really makes a great atmosphere for intimacy. :) What a great story about the Italian dinner. I’ve learned over time that our guests are much more relaxed when the dinner is casual and we’re relaxed. It really makes a great atmosphere for intimacy. :)

]]> By: Kimba http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/09/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4747 Kimba Wed, 10 Sep 2008 00:19:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4747 What a wonderful post...a beautiful reminder that hospitality isn't all about the surface impressions. It's about the heart.<br/><br/>Thank you! What a wonderful post…a beautiful reminder that hospitality isn’t all about the surface impressions. It’s about the heart.

Thank you!

]]> By: Claire, http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/09/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4746 Claire, Tue, 09 Sep 2008 20:18:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4746 Delightful post!<br/>I would hope people feel safe. Although, when you show people you care, they can get scared away. And when you make people think, they don't always like that either. Some people only feel comfortable in front of the tv. <br/>(we don't have tv, only meaningful conversations and silliness) Delightful post!
I would hope people feel safe. Although, when you show people you care, they can get scared away. And when you make people think, they don’t always like that either. Some people only feel comfortable in front of the tv.
(we don’t have tv, only meaningful conversations and silliness)

]]> By: tjhirst http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/09/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4744 tjhirst Tue, 09 Sep 2008 14:27:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4744 Intimacy through conversation is a wonderful gift that I can share. Sometimes people don't want to let us in, but I've realized that over time, like you said, questions can prompt them to know of my genuine care for them. I love questions. That's what Christ used to teach and that's a pattern we can follow, too. I grew up in St. Louis and my sister is getting married there in December. What a fun coincidence. Intimacy through conversation is a wonderful gift that I can share. Sometimes people don’t want to let us in, but I’ve realized that over time, like you said, questions can prompt them to know of my genuine care for them. I love questions. That’s what Christ used to teach and that’s a pattern we can follow, too. I grew up in St. Louis and my sister is getting married there in December. What a fun coincidence.

]]> By: willzmom http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/09/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4743 willzmom Tue, 09 Sep 2008 13:28:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4743 I have been away for too long and just caught up on your recent posts. You always inspire me with your graciousness and hospitality. I have a similar post to share soon about a party that I attended a few months ago where I was responsible for an 'ice breaker' game. It's a great way to get conversation flowing. I have been away for too long and just caught up on your recent posts. You always inspire me with your graciousness and hospitality. I have a similar post to share soon about a party that I attended a few months ago where I was responsible for an ‘ice breaker’ game. It’s a great way to get conversation flowing.

]]> By: mrsjones6 http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/09/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4742 mrsjones6 Tue, 09 Sep 2008 12:55:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4742 You share the most meaningful tips for true hospitality. This is such a timely post for me. Sometimes it seems our conversations are so random when we have company at the dinner table. When people leave I shake my head puzzled at the lack of intimacy with our guests. <br/>If you have any suggestions for conversation starters besides kids, football, and work, I would love to hear them!<br/><br/>Have a blessed week,<br/>Jen You share the most meaningful tips for true hospitality. This is such a timely post for me. Sometimes it seems our conversations are so random when we have company at the dinner table. When people leave I shake my head puzzled at the lack of intimacy with our guests.
If you have any suggestions for conversation starters besides kids, football, and work, I would love to hear them!

Have a blessed week,
Jen

]]> By: Betts http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/09/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4741 Betts Tue, 09 Sep 2008 12:49:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4741 What a beautiful story. I love sitting around the table and talking, sometimes for long past the meal. It's nice to be reminded that I'll be remembered more for my smile and conversation than my housekeeping. What a beautiful story. I love sitting around the table and talking, sometimes for long past the meal. It’s nice to be reminded that I’ll be remembered more for my smile and conversation than my housekeeping.

]]> By: Jen http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/09/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4740 Jen Tue, 09 Sep 2008 11:55:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4740 I'm glad you got to see family this weekend...it is always nice. I'm not very far from St Louis..only 3 hours.<br/>You are right about conversation though.....I loved this story. I’m glad you got to see family this weekend…it is always nice. I’m not very far from St Louis..only 3 hours.
You are right about conversation though…..I loved this story.

]]> By: Sheila http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/09/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4739 Sheila Tue, 09 Sep 2008 11:45:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4739 That's what I want our house to be like, too! If I'm with people who are shy, I just always ask them about their kids. Everybody likes talking about their kids!<br/><br/>What bothers me sometimes is when you have people over and all they talk about is themselves! But often, when they're leaving, they say they so enjoyed our conversation and getting to know us better--even though we didn't contribute anything! I've had that happen quite a few times.<br/><br/>But then I think, maybe they just needed to talk? And if I didn't get to share, too, maybe that's just part of serving them!<br/><br/><a HREF="http://sheilawraygregoire.com/honeyidonthaveaheadachetonightc23.php" REL="nofollow">Honey, I Don’t Have a Headache Tonight</a> That’s what I want our house to be like, too! If I’m with people who are shy, I just always ask them about their kids. Everybody likes talking about their kids!

What bothers me sometimes is when you have people over and all they talk about is themselves! But often, when they’re leaving, they say they so enjoyed our conversation and getting to know us better–even though we didn’t contribute anything! I’ve had that happen quite a few times.

But then I think, maybe they just needed to talk? And if I didn’t get to share, too, maybe that’s just part of serving them!

Honey, I Don’t Have a Headache Tonight

]]> By: Pennies In My Pocket http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/09/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4738 Pennies In My Pocket Tue, 09 Sep 2008 04:04:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4738 This is a wonderful post! There is such a huge difference in talking to someone and really showing your interest in them and listening...not just hearing. <br/><br/>I have a friend who has 'High/Low' conversations with her kids every night. They go around the table and each person says what the high of their day was and why and what the low part of the day was...even if the high isn't that high and the low isn't that low. I am keeping that on the shelf and going to use it when my baby is older. <br/><br/>Love your blog!<br/><br/>~melody~ This is a wonderful post! There is such a huge difference in talking to someone and really showing your interest in them and listening…not just hearing.

I have a friend who has ‘High/Low’ conversations with her kids every night. They go around the table and each person says what the high of their day was and why and what the low part of the day was…even if the high isn’t that high and the low isn’t that low. I am keeping that on the shelf and going to use it when my baby is older.

Love your blog!

~melody~

]]> By: Myrna http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/09/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4737 Myrna Tue, 09 Sep 2008 03:42:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4737 How about some tried and true sample questions Sandy<br/>xoxo How about some tried and true sample questions Sandy
xoxo

]]> By: OKGardners http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/09/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4736 OKGardners Tue, 09 Sep 2008 03:26:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4736 I love your blog and all the ideas you discuss. I was born with the gift of gab and have never been at a loss for words. However, I still get a lot of good tips from what you write. Hospitality doesn't mean "PERFECTION." <br/><br/>Off the Subject: The lady on the far left in your picture looks like Bette Midler - had you noticed? I love your blog and all the ideas you discuss. I was born with the gift of gab and have never been at a loss for words. However, I still get a lot of good tips from what you write. Hospitality doesn’t mean “PERFECTION.”

Off the Subject: The lady on the far left in your picture looks like Bette Midler – had you noticed?

]]> By: Nadine http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/09/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4735 Nadine Tue, 09 Sep 2008 02:52:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4735 I think with Tom being a pastor, it seems that times of intimacy comes out in our guest. I'm always grateful that they are fed - one way or another. I think with Tom being a pastor, it seems that times of intimacy comes out in our guest. I’m always grateful that they are fed – one way or another.

]]> By: Kirstin http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/09/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4734 Kirstin Tue, 09 Sep 2008 01:49:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4734 That is so awesome. I loved the story! What's nice Sandy i that you share your moments where entertaining wasn't as "easy" as it may appear to be now. YOu show ladies that you are "real" and you've been that struggling woman, and you give ladies hope that they can do it too. <br/><br/>I picked up some cute serving dishes at a garage sale a few weeks back. I'm excited to begin my collection of fun things to have handy for serving...including aprons and table cloths!!! That is so awesome. I loved the story! What’s nice Sandy i that you share your moments where entertaining wasn’t as “easy” as it may appear to be now. YOu show ladies that you are “real” and you’ve been that struggling woman, and you give ladies hope that they can do it too.

I picked up some cute serving dishes at a garage sale a few weeks back. I’m excited to begin my collection of fun things to have handy for serving…including aprons and table cloths!!!

]]> By: ~nanashouse~ http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/09/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4733 ~nanashouse~ Tue, 09 Sep 2008 01:42:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4733 When this happens, I just relax, close my eyes and pray that God will open up a line of conversation. Watch Out!! God is so faithful to answer our prayers. Sometimes we have heard deep hurts that could only be revealed in a "safe" setting. Other times, we have enjoyed a very funny story that couldn't be told in any other setting than a "family table". Keep it up, you encourage us :-) When this happens, I just relax, close my eyes and pray that God will open up a line of conversation. Watch Out!! God is so faithful to answer our prayers. Sometimes we have heard deep hurts that could only be revealed in a “safe” setting. Other times, we have enjoyed a very funny story that couldn’t be told in any other setting than a “family table”. Keep it up, you encourage us :-)

]]> By: linda t http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/09/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4732 linda t Tue, 09 Sep 2008 01:38:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4732 I hosted a birthday dinner party for my husband last night and I asked the question "describe for us your favorite snapshot moment of a special summer memory". <br/>I was blown away at how each of them shared with such detail and emotion, their favorite memory. All 12 guests were eager to share and it sure helped reconnect us on a deeper level after not seeing each other as much over the summer.<br/>Loved the post Sandy! I hosted a birthday dinner party for my husband last night and I asked the question “describe for us your favorite snapshot moment of a special summer memory”.
I was blown away at how each of them shared with such detail and emotion, their favorite memory. All 12 guests were eager to share and it sure helped reconnect us on a deeper level after not seeing each other as much over the summer.
Loved the post Sandy!

]]> By: Treasuring these things in my heart.....Sue http://reluctantentertainer.com/2008/09/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4731 Treasuring these things in my heart.....Sue Tue, 09 Sep 2008 00:24:00 +0000 http://reluctantentertainer.com/uncategorized/intimacy-in-conversation-a-safe-place/#comment-4731 I love what you shared, thank you!<br/>Your Italian hostess was a great example of what we are meant to be in offering hospitality to others.<br/>I love your blog!!!<br/>Sue I love what you shared, thank you!
Your Italian hostess was a great example of what we are meant to be in offering hospitality to others.
I love your blog!!!
Sue

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