When Did Perfectionism Become so Trendy?
The other day at breakfast my husband reminded me of these simple words:
Baby, he said, a good plan for today is better than a perfect plan for tomorrow.
Those words really hit home for me, and I thought about all I share here on RE. I know many of us struggle with perfectionism when it comes to entertaining, but I wonder just when did the “P” word become so trendy?
What generation or era started this horrible (almost) disease, to ruin so many of us?
I wrote in my RE book how I met a lady on the plane who shared with me how she’d never have people into her home for dinner, because she didn’t feel her house was good enough. She got tears in her eyes as she told me she was worried that her son never learned about hospitality. It was a pain point for her, and I felt badly for her. The pain went deeper for her as she shared that her mom had done the same thing.
Things were never good enough.
So they missed out on deeper connections and making memories in their own 4 walls with people they cared about.
I wonder when perfectionism became so necessary …
-Was it in the 50s or 60s when America started watching more TV?
-Was it when we started airbrushing models in homes and staging beautiful kitchens and dining rooms?
-Was it later, when magazines and TV shows resonating “perfect” showed us we were “less” if we didn’t have our homes look a certain way?
(Canning jar idea, here.)
Baby, a plan for today is better than a perfect plan for tomorrow.
I meditated on those words for days, lest I teach my children this awful “trend.”
A plan for today …
-If I decide to invite last minute guests over for dinner, my messy house will just have to do.
-The menu that I decide to cook will be sufficient for the purpose of entertaining. Soul connection.
-I won’t need to run to the store to make “one more thing,” because I have to serve 5 courses.
-My table, simple as it may be, won’t be impressive, but it won’t be distracting, either.
It won’t be trendy.
It won’t be perfect.
But it will be tasty and meaningful.
When do you think perfectionism became “trendy” in our society?