Your Daughter Needs a Hero (3) Book GIVEAWAY

I’m over at Simple Mom’s today posting about 8 Simple Steps to Planning a 4th of July Party! It really isn’t as hard as you might think … I learned years ago that delegation is the KEY.

#8. Pull it all together with a healthy attitude that things do not have to be perfect. When everyone contributes, it becomes more “community” and less about you.

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I was recently asked to review a book for a friend of a friend (The Nester), called, Your Daughter Needs a Hero, by Maria Furlough. The subtitle caught my eye right away … Helping her handle insecurity and poor body image.

(my daughter and some of her beautiful friends)

Years ago I started a Balcony Girls group with my daughter, from 3-8 grades. It was such a special time, with awesome girls, as we worked through relationships, friendships, and virtues. You can read more about my 2 eBooks, here.

One of the lessons in my eBook teaches on beauty: How to be able to look into the mirror and see your heart, as well as your face or your body, and learn that God loves you just the way He made you. And overcoming the “Barbie” image, or standard-of-beauty, of having to look “perfect.” To defeat these lies: You are not pretty enough. Your body isn’t perfect enough.

So, if you’re interested in building up your daughter’s self-esteem and self image, then read on … you can ENTER TO WIN a copy of this fabulous book that I’m giving away today! (3 copies)

Today’s book takes this subject of “image” much further. Maria Furlough shares her perspective on growing up as an insecure girl, her teens years, and now married several years as a young mom and mentoring young teens. She writes about self-image, confidence, and self-esteem. I’d say this book is a must-read if you have a daughter because she really shows parents how to counteract the constant pressures and influences that affect teen girls every day.

This book is for mothers and fathers to read, and includes discussion questions at the end for parents. Such a valuable ending to the book. Your daughter may not be crazy about you reading it, but … later she will thank you.

Here are some of the chapters which helped me decide that this book was for me, and something I could wrap my mind around. I feel we can always improve our parenting, so when I read something as inspiring as this book, I want to gain the wisdom myself, and share it with others.

Chapter titles (and my two-cents).

-How Teen Bop Magazine Ruined My Life (I too, remember reading Tiger Beat and wishing I could look like them. Ugh … I remember all too well, never happy for who I was.)

-Not My Daughter! (No one has a perfect daughter. It’s tempting to turn a blind eye and not deal with things that should be dealt with. Especially when we moms have hangups ourselves. I mean, how much do we talk about food, dieting, exercise, what clothing looks good on us, etc.)

-What if I Do Nothing? (What if I do something, should be what we are asking ourselves. I’m thankful for a healthy relationship with my daughter. Parenting is hard work, it doesn’t just happen overnight.)

-A Thankless Job (The goal as a mom is to be the source, strength, and guidance that our girls need. It’s not always easy and sometimes I question if I’m doing the right thing.)

-Mom’s Contributing Behaviors (Our actions, words of “diets,” what we watch and read, our appearances and insecurities … I pray it’s my faith that my daughter remembers the most.)

-Dad’s Contributing Behaviors (Healthy affection, adoration, and acceptance, HUMOR, leadership in dealing with everyday life’s pressures. It’s not about what she wears that makes her beautiful.)

-What Mom and Dad Can Do to Help (Be real with struggles you had. Ask a lot of questions, communicate, compliment. Don’t talk about your weight. (ouch))

-The Hope of a Different Future (Confident and secure women have the power to change our world and our family’s world. Not insecure women. I’ve learned that who I hang out with really makes a difference in so many ways.)

-My Mom’s Perspective: Beauty from Ashes (Maria’s mother shares about her daughter’s struggles with insecurity, self-image – how she feels Maria got these traits from her. She confesses to being a people pleaser.)

-My Dad’s Perspective: Man Your Battle Station (Maria’s father shares his story and mess-ups. He now says: What is the legacy you want to leave? He includes a challenge for grandparents of granddaughters.)

I have to say, I was really touched by Maria’s father’s story. I’ll let you read it to form your own opinion.

Self worth is something that most have struggled with at some time, and Maria gives very real examples in her new book for how to address these situations! Powerful!

Now for the GIVEAWAY. THREE people will win a copy of Your Daughter Needs a Hero.

ANSWER TO WIN:
What’s one example of how you address self-esteem issues with your daughter?

2 EXTRA CHANCES TO WIN (come back and tell me):
-Follow Maria’s Your Daughter Needs a Hero Facebook page

-Follow Reluctant Entertainer on Facebook

Good Luck and spread the giveaway, if you can, to those who could benefit by Maria’s ministry.

The 3 winners will be announced on RE Facebook page on Monday night, July 2.

   

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177 Responses to “Your Daughter Needs a Hero (3) Book GIVEAWAY”

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    Christine Yoder — July 2, 2012 @ 11:54 am

    My daughters are adults now and we got to the other side with laughs and tears and lots of prayers. I work now with an inner city group of preteens that like my children are early on worried about how they project themselves to others, and mostly to the opposite gender. I spent lots of time talking with my girls. One thing I really tried to hammer home was that they needed to be comfortable with who they are. They needed to spend time loving themselves, learning who they were and gaining a worldview to the table of adulthood. I explained to them they did not need a boyfriend/husband to validate their worthiness. They needed to be content and secure in who they were and their talents first, then they were ready to share their life. Now I need to learn myself how to take 18 years of parenting and words of love and wisdom and condense it into useful tools and dialogue for this group of preteens.
    Good luck to you all. As I scroll through and read I offer up a prayer to each one of you and your daughters. May they find their way and live in grace.

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    Jess — July 2, 2012 @ 12:24 pm

    My daughter is only 4, but I plan to address self esteem issues with her by first resolving my own.

    Thanks for the chance to win this book.

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    Jess — July 2, 2012 @ 12:27 pm

    I “like” the Your Daughter Needs a Hero Facebook page.

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    natalie — July 2, 2012 @ 12:28 pm

    My daughter is five and is already starting to realize that she has a baby belly or that she doesn’t look like the other little girls. I’m thankful that she’s vocal and comes to us to ask questions. I make sure to tell her that this is the way God made her and he doesn’t make mistakes; she’s perfect the way he made her.

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    Jess — July 2, 2012 @ 12:29 pm

    I like the Reluctant Entertainer Facebook page. :)

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    Marla — July 2, 2012 @ 12:31 pm

    Some days I just reaffirm how beautiful they are (my husband and I have three daughters, ages 17, 15, and 10). Some days I remind them they belong to God, always try to encourage according to their day and circumstances.

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    Beth — July 2, 2012 @ 1:27 pm

    My daughter is the owner of a thick head of very curly hair (she’s ethiopian) and all of her friends have long straight hair. We are constantly pointing out other women we see with beautiful, naturally curly hair. But most importantly we tell her that God gave her that hair because he thinks it is beautiful on her and we do too.

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    Melissa E. — July 2, 2012 @ 2:51 pm

    I probably talk too much about clothing. I always make a big deal about it when the kids get dressed up. But, one thing I do try to do is talk to my seven year old daughter about how it’s not just a pretty face that matters, but a pretty heart and pretty actions. And all that really matters is faith in Christ. I hope those words speak louder than things I have said about myself (especially since I just had my third baby. I was pretty wrapped up in worrying about weight gain). This book sounds great.

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    Gina — July 2, 2012 @ 2:53 pm

    I need this book! I think one thing we always, always do is remind them that they were beautifully made, they’re young still–and we pray lots and lots for them!

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    Gina — July 2, 2012 @ 2:55 pm

    Now following on Facebook :)

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    Kym — July 3, 2012 @ 6:04 am

    We’ve worked on self esteem issues with our daughters by having them use their gifts to serve others. They can stop focusing on themselves and focus on loving and helping others. They get to see how helping gives other people joy and they get a boost of encouragement as well!

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    Kym — July 3, 2012 @ 6:07 am

    “Liked” the Reluctant Entertainer page and Your Daughter Needs A Hero page!!

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    LAH — July 3, 2012 @ 6:54 am

    My daughter is 14. I try to help her create a positive self-image by encouraging her to find positive aspects in everyone. By finding the “good” in others, it helps us to look within ourselves as well. I would love this book! (Unfortunately, I do not have a Facebook page.)

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    Mary Noman — July 3, 2012 @ 9:09 am

    I would say the first and foremost setting the example and also just being in tune with them and knowing when there is a poblem. Dealing with the problem before it gets out of hand.
    thanks for the chance,
    ‘mary

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    celeste — July 5, 2012 @ 8:48 pm

    My 4 daughters are all at different stages and the teens struggle here most. We’ve tried to focus on the unique strengths God has given each of them and what true beauty is.

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    Carey Simpson — July 6, 2012 @ 7:54 am

    My daughter is just 13 – we focus on her inner and unique strengths – we talk about them all the time….we also talk about how GOD gave her these things and how she can use them for her to day to day dealings with herself and those around her. BUILD UP not down. +she is a competitive swimmer, so this helps in all the exercise, and mental abilities one acquires with this demanding sport. I so want to read this book, as my daughter has great self esteem, but i did not growing up and struggle with it still. I want to be prepared and armed for when my daughter starts to struggle:)

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    ChristenMarie — July 6, 2012 @ 9:41 am

    I have a 9 year old daughter (she will be 10 in September). She is in dance 4 days a week. She does Ballet/Pointe, Tap, Jazz, and Musical Theatre . I try to talk friendships and self esteem with her based on people in my life and my own daily struggles; some which are aparent to her. It helps her see that she is not alone in the struggle but that even at my age we deal with rocky relationships with friends, peer pressure, and self image and self worth. Sometimes I also flip scripts on her and place other people in her shoes and vis versa. It seems to help, but any advice and additional encouragement is greatly appreciated and much needed! As a strong willed female myself, I see me in my daughter every day and it really makes me reflect on things with my mom and how they were handled. Perspective is key..

    I’d love to win a copy of this book!

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    Jess — July 6, 2012 @ 10:26 am

    I constantly tell my three girls how smart and beautiful they are to build up their self esteem.

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    shari — July 6, 2012 @ 7:48 pm

    I encourage my girls to be friends with other girls who are not their age. It is easier to appreciate each other when you are not in the same grade. There are several girls about four years younger than my 13 & 14 year old, that adore my girls. The relationship between groups of multiage girls has such different focus. My 13 year old has a dear sweet soul mate that is only10. My 14 year old has a great friend that is 18, who loves to mentor my daughter and they just all continually support each other outside of the day to day school drama. Not all multiage groups work, but sometimes they really really do.

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    Lauren — July 9, 2012 @ 7:55 am

    Our daughter is only 5 months old, but we are trying to stock up on as much helpful material as possible to combat the messages that we know will be blasted in her face as she grows older. My husband and I would also recommend Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters by Meg Meeker http://www.megmeekermd.com/2011/03/strong-fathers-strong-daughters-10-secrets-every-father-should-know/.

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    RuthAnn — July 9, 2012 @ 6:04 pm

    luckily, I have a very attentive husband who encourages both me and my daughter constantly, stating that we are beautiful and that he loves his girls (helps mom a little bit too!!)

    Thanks for the chance to win! I’d love to read it!

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    Patty — July 10, 2012 @ 8:20 am

    Wow I would love to win this book. My daughter is 10yrs old and already she is self concious of how she looks. She doesnt like the fact that her belly sticks out. I reassure her that she is beautiful, I even tell her at her age I had a belly that stuck out too. :) Not to worry about it, no matter what, she is beautiful that God sees her as a beautiful precious daughter a jewel. I encourage her to eat healthy and I excercise with her, I tell her look mommy has belly fat too. Basically just reminding her that she is loved and she is beautiful in my eyes and in Gods as well.

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    Harley Mom — July 15, 2012 @ 11:38 am

    Continuing to complement her. Remind her that she is made exactly they way God intended her to be.

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