Balcony Girls Learn about the Theatre of Bullying & Make Homemade Chocolate Sauce!

Don’t expect a bully to ever apologize to you, because in most cases, most of the time, the bully thinks very highly of herself. -Paul Coughlin, The Protectors

These were the words that my husband shared with the Balcony Girls last week as we discussed The Theatre of Bullying, as we met on a beautiful, sunny day in southern Oregon. There’s the star (the bully), the target (who is not a victim), the authority, and the by-stander. And in the theatre, you’ll find most bullying happening in places where there is a lack of supervision. Non-assertive kids are the #1 target! And research suggests that girls use social media more to bully (or be bullied by) than boys.

My husband told the girls the story of Greg …

I shared some stories from my growing up where I lacked courage …

Everyone has a story about either being a bully or have been bullied during their lifetime.

Paul explained to the girls that bullying is not about miscommunication or misunderstanding. It’s not about anger management. Bullies often think they are WONDERFUL, and with girls, they are often prone to jealousy or envy.

Power of Two
-Find a friend and make an agreement that if you ever see each other being picked on, you will stand up for each other.

-Be watching out for each other on Facebook or any social media, because people can be really stupid and say mean things.

-Make the agreement with each other that if you see someone else being picked on, you will stand up together for that kid.

Dignity equals our worth and value. It is something that should never be stripped from a human being.

As parents, teachers, and leaders, it’s never too early to start teaching our kids about courage and that it’s required of us!

We made our own delicious homemade chocolate sauce. Yum.

Decorated the inexpensive bottles (thank you, Rachael Ray!)

Poured the sauce in the bottles and each girl took theirs home.

Homemade Chocolate Sauce
Serves 8

3 cups cocoa
4.5 cups sugar
3 dashes salt
4.5 cups water
3 tsp. vanilla

Stir together. Boil 2-5 minutes, stirring rapidly, until sauce begins to thicken.

Set aside and cool (store in fridge).

Pour into bottles.

It’s the best for sundaes or milk shakes, for strawberries or garnishing a dessert.

If you have kiddos, do you make it a priority to discuss and teach courage to your them?

(You can read more about Balcony Girls, HERE. My Ebook 2 will be coming out soon with 8 more valuable lessons on virtues, one specifically on COURAGE and BULLYING. Paul is speaking nationally on The Theatre of Bullying. If you’d like to bring him to your school(s), visit his site, HERE.)

11 comments on “Balcony Girls Learn about the Theatre of Bullying & Make Homemade Chocolate Sauce!”

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  2. Thanks for this post… I’m wondering about the recipe?… *3 cups* cocoa???… Is that correct?… and is that unsweetened cocoa?… Thanks for the clarification :)

  3. Sandy I had no idea about your husband’s work. Admirable. I just sent him an email asking about something that’s been on my mind lately. What a lovable family you are :))
    With love from Greece.

  4. I have talked several times with my girls about how they treat others and also what to do if someone is being picked on or left out. I am so thankful that they are both the types of girls that will be friends with anyone. They really don’t care who someone is, they just love people.

  5. What a great post Sandy. The tips, the activity, the togetherness…what a positive message. I love what you do with these girls. Am sharing with all my friends.


  6. Good advice my friend. I think that being 6 foot tall in high school kept girls from picking on me. LOL! Plus I got along with just about everyone. But I know it’s hard for kids today. I can’t stand to watch kids get picked on. My daughter got verbally bullied at school when she was younger. It broke my heart when she finally told me. I always figure that the kids that do it are lacking something at home, but it shouldn’t give them an excuse to do it. Homeschooling my kids help because if one of them bullies the other, I take care of it right then and there. LOL!
    Have a great day Sandy

  7. Bullying is a real issue here in our small town. It never ceases to amaze me at the things kids will say and do to others out of sheer meanness! I have talked to my girls about it many times. There is a great devotional book out that we have been reading called “Mean Girls”. We have been reading it together in the evenings. Dealing with boys who bully is another who issue. My 11 year-old son who prefers reading and golf to football and baseball has been bullied quite a bit because of his tender heart. He would rather be friends with the kids who has none than be popular which also makes him a target. It’s pathetic that it goes on at such young ages and even more pathetic that so many parents make excuses for it by saying “they are just kids.”

    • Great post Jen! It is sooo sad when any kid bullies or is bullied, but I just am appalled when it is happening at such a young age.

  8. A couple of months ago I gave your husband’s name and website to an organization that is trying to tackle the issue of bullying. I hope they call him.

  9. Love the idea of having a “buddy system” for online and in real life – watching out for each other’s backs.

    And that photo!!! The photo of the girls jumping — precious!

  10. This is a topic I think all teens should hear about. As I remember boys more often used physical bully tactics and girls verbal ones. Excluding someone is a bully technique that kind of goes under the radar and I think has long lasting consequences. I think good self esteme prevents a lot of bullying or even being bullied. To that end I try to compliment my GD on her achievements and particularly her relationships with others. Would love to hear your husband talk on the subject – with or without chocolate sauce :-)


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