We stepped outside onto the lawn and shook a can of soda – quickly!
And then we popped the top open. Fffzzzzzzzz…………
I asked the girls if they ever get so mad at their friends that they feel they are going to explode?
Yes, that scenario was familiar to all of them!
If you can learn to stand up for yourself NOW, at the age of 12, I told the girls this week at Balcony Girls, then you are learning how to handle friends who will try to walk all over you!
My niece Lisa chimed in as well. Learn about friendships now and what it means to be true to yourself. It will save you a lot of heartache down the road.
THIS is a gift that you are giving yourself, by learning it NOW, we both agreed.
What makes us angry?
* Your friend has been telling lies about you (remember hurt people hurt people!)
* She puts you down in front of others, humiliating you
* She does things to hurt you on purpose, like gossip, mean texts or emails
* She tries to talk you into things that you know are wrong (might go against your family rules)
* She only cares what’s on the outside (beauty and stuff), and not about you
* She only invites you over because she is desperate – it makes you feel used
* She embarrasses you in front of others – she points out your flaws
Speak up for yourself!
Part of staying true to who you are (how God has made you, how your parents and family members see you, how your best friend really knows you) is by learning to speak up and to stand up for yourself. To think wisely before you speak (so you won’t regret your words later), and at the same time to defend the innate dignity within yourself.
Stand up for yourself!
Maybe you’re dealing with a mean girl, a situation that you know is not right, so you start thinking of reasons why you shouldn’t stand up for yourself. These fears are real but you have to push past them! You might be thinking:
* She will get mad at me
* She will spread more gossip about me
* I hate conflict! It’s hard!
* I don’t want to hurt her feelings
Talk it out
Find a friend to talk to, or maybe your mom or a teacher. I told the girls to come to me!
You have to talk. You might even have to confront. And you have to respect yourself enough to do these things so you DO NOT EXPLODE inside with anger (again saying something that you might regret later).
My niece Lisa brought a fantastic craft for the girls this week. She brought large cotton laundry bags that she put the girls’ names on – and then each girl decorated their own bag.
Take a jar – paint around the rim and stamp the bag for circles
Personality comes out in their art
Home run snack
Two pans devoured rather quickly
I learn so much myself by having this Balcony Girls group, by opening my home and reaching out to these girls.
The beauty of this group is that there are no expectations.
Except to learn, have fun, and to have a good snack.
How easy is that?
(Yes, I will post the easy snack recipe soon!)
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originally published March 13, 2009 — last updated January 12, 2010 //40 Comments
Welcome to my home and table! I'm Sandy—lover of food, family, cooking, THE BIG BOARD, travel, and bringing people together. Feasting on Life begins the moment we open our door (and hearts) to hospitality, wherever we are. Through great recipes and connection around the table, we become better, stronger, and more courageous people. Feasting on Life is real, and every time we do it, we grow a little more.