Law or Love?

I really should invite that family over.
I ought to be friendlier to my neighbors.
I must do something for that family in need.
I need to open up my home, but I don’t feel like it.
I wish I were more compassionate.

Why do so many of us speak about grace and compassion, but we have a hard time living it? Myself included, I find I use the above terms of obligation, duty and demand quite regularly. As I fall into using this language, I feel guilty and I lose my joy!


I was challenged this morning as I was writing this post. Because when I think about the language that I sometimes use (out of obligation or guilt), I think about the huge responsibility that God has given to me:

What am I teaching my children? The law (I feel forced to) or love (I want to)?

I want hospitality to be gracious – a way of life.

I want hospitality to be heartfelt.

I want to have JOY when I do something for someone.

I want to use the language of grace.

I want to teach my children well.


I’m changing my words to, I’d like to, I hope to, I desire to, I want to.

It’s clear that when I do this, I’m resisting the bondage of “duty.”

Think about your speech – is it of law or love?

(Photos of weekend garden goods: Fresh potatoes, and still ever-bearing strawberries! Tomatoes served as appetizers that tasted like candy! Served with salt, white pepper and balsamic glaze drizzled on top! Also, we did not write down the “type” of berries that we planted – a lesson learned to write everything down because so many people have asked what they are. We know they are ever-bearing and they have given us berries from June until now!)

28 comments on “Law or Love?”

  1. Thank you for this reminder this morning (I’m catching up on your blog). I need to change my language, too, and never even thought how this kind of language translates to our children! My mother-in-law asked me on the phone last night if I could host Christmas Eve and I said “I’d LOVE to!” without thinking. As I hung up, I thought “wow, I just gave her a wonderful gift of…words!”

  2. Amen, sister!…oh, and I read the list of apple butter ingredients from the next post to my hubby and he said…’it needs raisins’!…..don’t worry….he says that about everything!…..I assured him that you can’t put raisins in apple butter!

  3. I was convicted on this today so I invited my neighbor and her two little boys over to make pumpkin cut-out cookies with Lauren. They all had a blast and I was glad I didn’t pass it up to be lazy today!
    I was blessed.
    Sue

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