Day 2: When Perfect Robs You of Something Good
Thanks for joining me in my “30 Days of Summer Entertaining” series.
Let’s just say that your excuse to not entertain has been that your house is too small.
But now that it’s summer, the outdoors provides the perfect space, right?
Possibly it’s not quite perfect enough for you, though. You don’t have money to buy the “nice” furniture from Pottery Barn, a brand new BBQ, patio decorations, or you don’t have anything to entertain the kids … so you settle for the smaller family barbeques because, hey! They won’t care, they are just family.
You let the imperfect stop you from having the people over that you really want to forge stronger relationships with. You know you should invite them, but you just can’t do it.
Perfect robs way too many of the good. The good in this case is that you put your pride aside, you come up with a plan that will work for company, you delegate portions of the meal if money is a problem, you borrow tables and chairs if that is a problem or spread a blanket on the ground, you spend 1/2 day cleaning the area that you want to spruce up.
You have to make an effort to overcome perfect.
Or it will steal something very good from you.
If you have a family, did you know that you are robbing your kids of beautiful memories and fun times, PLUS the joy of hospitable living, if you never have people over?
What’s your struggle with perfect?
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I just started reading this segment this evening, I didn’t realize it was a year old, but just had to comment. What you’ve written is been my problem for so long, I guess thats what drew me to your blog in the first place, ” reluctant entertainer” thats me,,, I want to entertain and dream of doing so but my insecurities hold me back. My house is too small, too clutterd, now all my kids live here again, its a mess, what if whatever I serve burns? I could go on and on. I have people other then family over a few times a year but would really like to do more out door entertaining and I just need to “GET OVER IT” and do it! Thanks for this post I can’t wait to read the rest.
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My struggle with perfect comes & goes. I really try not to sweat the small stuff but sometimes it’s hard to.
I really try to change my thinking and focus more on comfort (not just physical) than perfect. Love the commenter above that said they entertained in their backyard sitting in the grass, that is my kind of get together!