My Secret Fudge Sauce Frosting for cupcakes? Take a jar of Trader Joe’s Fudge Sauce, warm in the microwave, and spread over the cupcakes for frosting.

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Yesterday I made chocolate cupcakes, scraped the bowl, licked the spoon, and fell into a sugar-coated trap.

The trap of comparison. Would my cupcakes turn out, and look as good as Bridget or Amanda’s?

I started thinking about those expert cupcake makers, and what my little chocolate homemade-looking mini cakes would look like.

What started as a happy little gesture of making cupcakes for my Dad’s birthday, turned into a whiny session (in my mind).

Secret Fudge Sauce Frosting

I started comparing my baking skills with others who do it so well.

But by the time I finished scraping and licking the spoon, I stopped myself. Whew!

It’s just what we women do. We forget to live in the moment.

There will always be others who take better photos, bake the perfect cupcake, come up with beautiful recipes … who are skinnier, entertain better, are more beautiful, who seem happier, who get more opportunities in life.

There’s always something, and we also fall into the trap of assuming, when we don’t always have our facts straight and are not seeing the big picture clearly. (Who has a perfect life? No one).

The Secret to Fudge Sauce Frosting

We need to break the cycle.

I think so much of our “comparing” has to do with the media, social media, and our insecurity in general. And not being secure in who we’ve been created to be. It’s a dangerous trap that causes depression, stress, and envy. (I hate that word.)

Learn to embrace the moment.

So I embraced my cupcakes, I happily took them over to my Dad’s, having a couple myself, and I gave myself a pat on the back.

Good job, Sandy! You stopped comparing yourself to others, you were confident in your cupcakes, that they were “good enough” and tasted quite yummy, and that you actually came up with a killer frosting for the topping.

The Secret to Fudge Sauce Frosting

So, what made my cupcakes so delicious with the most creamy, chocolatey frosting?

I took a jar of Trader Joe’s Fudge Sauce, warmed it in the microwave for about 30 seconds, and spread that jar of GOODNESS all over those cupcakes!

For those who didn’t know my quick and easy secret, they were raving over the frosting.

The Secret to Fudge Sauce Frosting

Who would have known? My new quick and easy frosting was so good, and turned out so well; it gave me confidence in my dessert-making, for sure.

No more comparing.

Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, or the negative side of what’s bugging you or that you don’t have control over, work on what you do have, and be grateful.

Gratitude changes everything.

Do you fall into the comparison trap, and how do you get yourself out?

The Secret to Fudge Sauce Frosting
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  • Prepared cupcakes
  • 1 jar fudge sauce


  • 1. Warm in the microwave for 30 seconds.
  • 2. Frost the cupcakes. Let sit for about 20 minutes.
  • 3. Serve!
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