Still Dating with Blackberry Claflouti Recipe

This Blackberry Claflouti Recipe is perfect to serve at any dinner party, especially delicious made with the largest blackberries you can find!

Blackberry Claflouti Recipe

Having been married almost 23 years to the love of my life, Mr. Paul, and and having written a book together many moons ago (many moons!), I’m excited to explore marriage more in blogland – topics such as what I’ve learned, what he’s learned, dating ideas, how to push through painful times, how does marriage affect our kids, when you want to give up, keeping healthy relationships with others, and more.

So, besides sharing this delicious Blackberry Claflouti recipe today, let me start with a little bit of honesty: Marriage takes a ton of work, effort, discipline, grace, forgiveness, prayer, and love. I feel blessed, being married to someone so easy to love! I can’t imagine being with someone I didn’t love … but sometimes that love is messy, complicated, hard.

If I were asked.

If I were asked, What’s an important tip to give to a newly married couple?

My answer would be.

My answer would be: Regular dating.

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Make regular dating a habit.

Make dating a habit. Don’t get caught up in excuses. Never stop trying new things and going new places. Never stop learning more about your spouse. It doesn’t have to cost money. Once babies come, dating is a gift that parents give their children. Keep your dating creative and new. It’s where you can solve some of your martial problems. It’s where you can learn more about each other and grow as a couple. It’s the glue that holds your marriage together in tough times. It’s when you can pray together. It’s where you build trust and talk about the secret places of your hearts. You talk about longings, dreams, and the past; what made us who we are today. It’s where you listen to your spouse’s story, and you shed a tear over their painful experiences in life, and then you fall in love again. And again, and again. It’s where Paul learned more about me, and I learned more about Paul. It’s where I was encouraged to dream about and write this blog and to help others, and Paul began seriously thinking about his true vocation: rescuing children from what he calls the “Theater of Bullying.” But more about these things later.

Blackberry Claflouti Recipe

Set the date.

Even if you don’t go out on an “official date,” set a date. Set a time and and a day (in your home) when you will talk to your spouse. It could be random times of the day–whatever works for your schedule. Let’s meet at 2 pm before the kids get home from school.

Dating takes creativity, a willingness to change up the schedule, and effort. It’s the special little moments of coming together, that help build our relationships.

Blackberry Claflouti Recipe

Dating can happen anywhere.

Dates are usually planned around eating together (but not required), and they should force you to talk! There’s something about the common bond of a loving relationship–body and soul–and food is the conduit that nourishes and soothes. It could be the most intimate story of our lives, shared over a cup of coffee or a glass of wine, a meal at home (yes, you can have a date night at home!) or at a favorite place, or on a hike together in the wilderness. But a little bit of physical nourishment goes a long way to encouraging your soul connection.

It can happen anywhere!

Blackberry Claflouti Recipe

It’s the best investment.

The most important aspect I want to share is to just do it. Because dating is an investment, and could actually save your marriage down the road when hard times come. Because they will.

Blackberry Claflouti Recipe

This is sort of a teaser post, so you’ll know what I’m up to.

Now, where does the recipe come in?

Make a special recipe.

I made this for my husband for one of our recent dates. A ‘Clafoutis’ *(m) is a French dessert which consists of fruit baked in a batter, sort of like a cobbler. Traditionally black cherries are used, but it is not unusual to find many other fruits being substituted, like I did with blackberries that I bought at Trader Joe’s. The dessert is dusted with powdered sugar just before it is served, and I topped it with creme fraiche.

A date at home.

We shared it during a “date.” A classic meal at home (yes, home!), a glass of wine, our favorite music in the background, and over the best conversation. Conversation that included talk of our kids, but then on to how we can make our marriage stronger. What we can do to impact the world. Part of this conversation had to do with getting outside of ourselves and reaching out to the world with our passions and dreams. Making a difference where we can, because if we live for ourselves, life becomes selfish, empty, dry (including our marriage), boring, and we look to “things” to make us happy. More on this topic later? Yes!

Yes, we’re still dating.

Twenty-three years later, we’re still dating each other, and we still have more to learn and grow. Weekly we make it a habit to get out of the house and date!

Do you prioritize and set aside time for regular dating?

Blackberry Claflouti Recipe

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Blackberry Claflouti Recipe

This French blackberry clafouti recipe is a homespun version of a traditional puffed French custard cake. Baked in individual servings, with plump blackberries and bright orange zest, makes for a not-too-sweet romantic dessert.
Prep Time15 mins
Cook Time40 mins
Total Time55 mins
Servings: 4 -6

Ingredients

  • 1 tablespoon softened butter
  • 3 eggs
  • 1/2 cup sugar
  • 3/4 cup whole milk
  • 1/2 cup heavy cream
  • 1/2 cup all-purpose flour I used gluten-free flour
  • 2 tsp. grated orange zest
  • 2 teaspoons vanilla extract
  • 1/2 teaspoon salt
  • 2 cups fresh blackberries
  • 2 Tbsp. orange-flavored liqueur or orange juice
  • 1 tablespoon confectioners’ sugar powdered

Instructions

  • Preheat an oven to 375F. Butter a 9-inch by 9-inch square baking dish or a 9-inch deep-dish pie round, or 4 ramekin dishes, with the softened butter.
  • In a large bowl, beat together with an electric mixer the eggs, sugar, milk, cream, flour, orange zest, vanilla extract, liqueur, and salt until it forms a smooth, thin batter.
  • Arrange berries in prepared dish or ramekins. Carefully pour the batter over the fruit.
  • Bake at 375F for 10 minutes. Reduce the heat to 350F and bake for additional 30 minutes, or until filling is set and the top is golden brown.
  • Sprinkle the confectioner’s sugar over the finished clafouti and serve it warm, with a spoonful of creme fraiche on top!

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  6. Love this so much, Sandy!! And the claflouti looks so good!!

  7. What a beautiful and inspiring post Sandy! You are such an inspiration to me as a mom with babies/toddlers and a marriage under 10 years. Love every word!

  8. OK first of all I’m so glad you’re doing this series. I feel like our marriage is really good but I never want to stop learning how to make it better! And I love love LOVE how you said that dating your spouse is a gift you can give to your children. Could not have said it better myself!

  9. I couldn’t agree more! Now I want some of that cowflooty ;) it looks delicious!

  10. Sandy, I love your new blog series. My husband and I have been married for 27 years and our marriage seems to get stronger with each passing year. You are so right about the importance of having dates with your spouse. A couple really needs to spend that quality time together without all the distractions of everyday life. We look forward to our date nights. Thank you for your heartfelt series.

    PS I can’t wait to make that wonderful dessert you posted:-)

  11. Beautiful topic for a series, Sandy. We’re hopelessly out of practice at dating, perhaps because we have 3 kids under 8. ;) I know it needs to be more of a priority; clafouti sounds like a good place to start. ;)

  12. Love this post Sandy!! This is something we are currently working on, we know it’s important for so many reasons. Can’t wait to read the rest of your series posts.

    Beautiful dessert – fruit desserts are my favorite. :)

  13. I LOVE this! What a great series idea. Cannot wait for these posts. I’m married to my high school sweetheart (will be celebrating our 20th wedding anniversary next year)…. and I can attest to the importance of regular dating. Everything you said is so true. In seasons where we didn’t prioritize that time together we felt the impact. Time alone is just critical. Even (as you said) it’s an at-home date. PS ~ Great dessert! Very romantic for Valentine’s Day. :-) Looking forward to the posts to come in this series…..

  14. This was the sweetest. I think date nights are totally important. A chance to treat yourselves and totally unwind together. Love this post so much!

  15. Hello. Could I use defrosted frozen blackberries?

  16. I love this post, Sandy. We haven’t been as good about date nights as we should be, but we’re trying to rectify that this year! We have 12 promised dates ‘out’ for each other this year and a bunch of dates ‘in’ as well. :D

    And I ADORE clafoutis. Your blackberry ones look so lovely!

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