Warm Connections {Day 18}: “Now Time” & 5 Years at RE
A few weeks ago two friends came over for a morning visit. There’s just nothing like IRL (In Real Life) relationships. Fiona brought her baby, the cutest baby boy on the planet. :)
Jenny, who brought her twin daughters, hugged me several times as she was leaving, because after following RE for 4 years and recently moving to my town, we finally got to meet IRL. By the way, I was hugging her back just as hard, because it was a mutual feeling for me. I immediately fell in love with this girl, mama of 4 little ones, wife of a very busy professional, new to my town.
Here’s a little insight into what IRL is all about: Real relationships, God’s perfect plan, in real life.
I was sitting at my son’s soccer game (well, husband’s too, since he’s the varsity coach) with my Dad on one side and my friend Minor on the other. We were clearly winning against what we thought would be a very difficult Portland team (final score 7-1) and I turned to Minor and said, it’s so good to be here “IRL.”
He said, What’s IRL?
I said, In Real Life.
I told Minor (a retired Cardiologist who’s very savvy with the computer, iPhone, texting, all types of social media) … You need to know what this term means!
I went on to explain that we do so much by texting and email now, that the physical touch, hug, talking face-to-face, looking into the eyes when there is pain or joy, seeing the extra wrinkles or gray hairs, or my favorite, reaching out and holding the person’s hand sitting next to me, seems to be gone.
When I started my blog 5 years ago TODAY, my tag line was “real entertaining for real people.” Along the way I seemed to have lost the actual wording, but the evidence remains the same.
I’m really not interested in writing about entertaining unless I’m really doing it. No staged shots without the food consumed by the guests, but instead “IRL” dinner parties where life happens around the table, a quality time of talking, laughing, sharing, even crying … it’s what I call “now time.”
Warmer connections come when we meet for real, face-to-face.
Do you ever feel guilty, with all the social media taking place, that you’re not connecting with the ones you really love and miss?
If you missed previous days to 31 Days of Warm Connections …
Day 1: Secret Ingredient to Warmer Connections
Day 2: Bringing the Beauty of Autumn to Your Table
Day 3: Multi-Generational Pear Applesauce
Day 4: Canning Suncrest Peaches with a Friend
Day 5: How to Find Contentment
Day 6: Encouragement with Easy Pear Cobbler
Day 7: Bush’s Garbanzos, Chicken, and Quinoa Soup for a Sports Family
Day 8: More About Others
Day 9: Technology Versus People
Day 10: The Table Experience with Bush’s Beans
Day 11: Dreaming of Autumn Guests
Day 12: Gathering Around a Homemade Life
Day 13: Sisters in New York City
Day 14: Giving to Those in Need
Day 15: Enjoying Everyday Sounds
Day 16: Life’s Small Moments
Day 17: Well-Designed Kitchen Counter
And be sure to check out the rest of the 31 Day Participants!
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I’m Sandy—lover of food, family, cooking, THE BIG BOARD, travel, and bringing people together. Through great recipes and connection around the table, we become better, stronger, and more courageous people. Feasting on Life is real, and every time we do it, we grow a little more. Read more...
Another GREAT post Sandy. You nailed the message. I’m so blessed to have been able to spend IRL time with you. Love ya girl.
And 5 years!! Congratulations.
Happy 5 years, Sandy! Your blog is one of my absolute favorites and one of the first blogs I ever discovered. I’m so thankful you started it – and so thankful you’re still blogging! :)
Sandy, I love your posts. Each and every one of them. They are uplifting, inspiring, and nothing short of amazing. Life has been a bit difficult to understand and cope with lately. I am from a family of 8, have 4 brothers and 4 sisters, 2 sister -in-laws. I am the youngest. My mom is amazing! She touches others the way you do with warm connections, she has no idea she creates warm connections with others. My sister who is just over 6 years older than me had a Massive Stroke on September 29th, and then the following day had emergency decompression craniotomy, the right side of her skull was removed to allow the pressure on the right side to grow and not take her life. I know that is a few sad mouthfuls of information I just shared with you.
My point is that you make my day a lot easier when I read your posts and they are uplifting, happy and moving. Thank you !!! My husband and my kids make things easier to cope with to, they are the loves of my life, and my big sister is improving baby steps at a time each day.
Thanks for always sharing wonderful and delightful posts, I look forward to your blog and I read your older posts all the time. Love them to! Have a wonderful day! ~Amy
I agree that the “personal touch” is fading. We retired and moved 2000 miles away from “home”, so technology has enabled me to reconnect with old friends. However, I have made it my goal to handwrite a note or letter to a friend every week. It has been heartwarming to receive a note in return telling me how happy it made them to receive a note thru the mail…..and, the ironic thing about it is that when I receive their letter, it makes me feel the same way!
Hi Sandy,
Well…as always, another great post! Yes, I think technology has replaced so many face to face interactions – or at the very least telephone interactions. People seem so busy today so they turn to social media to stay connected with others but something is really lost in the translation.
As I get older, I find that I prefer to chat on the phone or meet up with a friend in person. So many things can’t be expressed in words or often can be misinterpreted using social media! Being able to give someone a hug, smile, and share some conversation is what it means to be human. We are so blessed with all the gifts we have been given by God as human beings, I am saddened sometimes when I see so many folks just using their fingers to type. I also think that when we limit our interpersonal contact it is easier for people to become depressed because they feel isolated.
I love your blog because you are just sharing part of your life. As you said, you don’t want things staged. I couldn’t agree with you more. Sometimes friends will say to me – “Mary, the picture on your blog is blurred.” I can’t help but laugh in the knowing that yes…it probably is blurred as I was most likely taking a picture, talking, and serving food all at the same time! LOL! I love how you once shared that you quickly snap your pictures and then serve the food you prepared to your family and/or guests so that everyone is eating the food while it’s hot. You are so REAL! :-)
I will share a funny story with you as to how things in the social media world can be misinterpreted. My friend posted a small picture of a cat on Facebook with the caption, “Your facebook picture”. Then she posted a picture of the entire cat…who was very chubby with the caption “You in real life.” How I laughed and typed back to her – and all her facebook world – “How true!” What I had overlooked was that she had typed, “This is me.” Later, when I actually saw what she wrote, I had to re-post that I meant myself and not her. Well the two of us had a good laugh but I learned a good lesson!
Have a great week! And thanks again for all the wonderful information you are sharing.
Love,
Mary
I love this post. I miss the “IRL” times. It seems most of my “friends” are too busy these days with facebook, twitter, email, etc. to even pick up the phone for two minutes to say hi. While I believe the technology is helpful, especially for those living apart from their families, it has taken away from real life relationships. I do not have a facebook account, I personally find it impersonal, and I have lost a good many friendships to it as that is now their only way of communicating! Sad, but true.
I do agree, and at the same time I love how social media has reconnected me with so many people. There are many times I get so discouraged by the seemingly “lack of time” people have to really connect. Sometimes so much so that I’ve just sort of given up on trying. I mean, really, how hard is it to meet for coffee for just a bit? Yet, there are times or seasons that I feel I probably do the same thing, forget to connect with others IRL because life is busy. What happened to the days of knocking on the door for a quick visit and not feeling like you were putting someone out.
Great post Sandy!
After having just moved 200 miles from home, I’m relying on the internet and telephone to maintain so many relationships. The IRL factor has gone way down around here and I do miss it. But I’m thankful that I have the technology to be able to keep in touch. So that when I do have the IRL experience, we are still up to date and can just move onto building new memories.
Funny, I was just thinking about IRL friends this morning. I’m not as involved with technology as some are (don’t text, etc). I don’t think it has changed my IRL interactions very much and what it has changed I think is for the better. For instance, my Mom lives 500 miles away and I e-mail her every morning – just a quick line or two – and hear back from her and know she’s ok. She’s pretty tech savy for a woman in her mid 90’s!
Darla
This is so true! Technology is wonderful to bring people together, but it also can move people further apart. I’m reallyenjoying your series my friend!