Warm Connections {Day 18}: “Now Time” & 5 Years at RE
A few weeks ago two friends came over for a morning visit. There’s just nothing like IRL (In Real Life) relationships. Fiona brought her baby, the cutest baby boy on the planet. :)
Jenny, who brought her twin daughters, hugged me several times as she was leaving, because after following RE for 4 years and recently moving to my town, we finally got to meet IRL. By the way, I was hugging her back just as hard, because it was a mutual feeling for me. I immediately fell in love with this girl, mama of 4 little ones, wife of a very busy professional, new to my town.
Here’s a little insight into what IRL is all about: Real relationships, God’s perfect plan, in real life.
I was sitting at my son’s soccer game (well, husband’s too, since he’s the varsity coach) with my Dad on one side and my friend Minor on the other. We were clearly winning against what we thought would be a very difficult Portland team (final score 7-1) and I turned to Minor and said, it’s so good to be here “IRL.”
He said, What’s IRL?
I said, In Real Life.
I told Minor (a retired Cardiologist who’s very savvy with the computer, iPhone, texting, all types of social media) … You need to know what this term means!
I went on to explain that we do so much by texting and email now, that the physical touch, hug, talking face-to-face, looking into the eyes when there is pain or joy, seeing the extra wrinkles or gray hairs, or my favorite, reaching out and holding the person’s hand sitting next to me, seems to be gone.
When I started my blog 5 years ago TODAY, my tag line was “real entertaining for real people.” Along the way I seemed to have lost the actual wording, but the evidence remains the same.
I’m really not interested in writing about entertaining unless I’m really doing it. No staged shots without the food consumed by the guests, but instead “IRL” dinner parties where life happens around the table, a quality time of talking, laughing, sharing, even crying … it’s what I call “now time.”
Warmer connections come when we meet for real, face-to-face.
Do you ever feel guilty, with all the social media taking place, that you’re not connecting with the ones you really love and miss?
If you missed previous days to 31 Days of Warm Connections …
Day 1: Secret Ingredient to Warmer Connections
Day 2: Bringing the Beauty of Autumn to Your Table
Day 3: Multi-Generational Pear Applesauce
Day 4: Canning Suncrest Peaches with a Friend
Day 5: How to Find Contentment
Day 6: Encouragement with Easy Pear Cobbler
Day 7: Bush’s Garbanzos, Chicken, and Quinoa Soup for a Sports Family
Day 8: More About Others
Day 9: Technology Versus People
Day 10: The Table Experience with Bush’s Beans
Day 11: Dreaming of Autumn Guests
Day 12: Gathering Around a Homemade Life
Day 13: Sisters in New York City
Day 14: Giving to Those in Need
Day 15: Enjoying Everyday Sounds
Day 16: Life’s Small Moments
Day 17: Well-Designed Kitchen Counter
And be sure to check out the rest of the 31 Day Participants!
Congratulations on your five years! Don’t get me started! :) Texting IMO :) should be used for only the most basic of information. To me, it says “I want to tell you something, but don’t really want to talk to you or hear what you have to say” . AND it should never be used for something you couldn’t or wouldn’t say in person. I think all of this social media makes us feel somehow less responsible for our words. On the other hand, it does serve a purpose. Like everything else in life, it needs balance. Nothing replaces the warmth of the human touch!
Aaaaaa!!! You saw my gray hair???
Looks like by the length of the comments your post struck a cord. Have you seen the commercial where the girls is commenting on her parents lack of facebook friends and how they are so lame then it cuts to her parents having a blast with all kinds of people IRL.
I prefer IRL too!
FIVE YEARS!! Congratulations! Wow, Sandy. What a milestone. And look at everything you’ve accomplished here!
But you’re right–there’s no substitute for real life. Sure wish I could meet you IRL sometime. Maybe you need to come to Durham! :)
IRL- love it!
Happy blog birthday!
This post reminded me of my visit with my father last week. He doesn’t email, text, skype, facebook,- nope, none of it!”IRL” is all he knows.
As I was rushing our family into a restaurant, I heard my pops say “and one more”. I turned to see the homeless man that we had rushed by on our way through the parking lot. My father had stopped to talk with him and invited him to dinner.
It really put me in my place and it made a huge impression on my 4 kiddos.
The man opted to eat at his own table – wisely, we are a rowdy bunch- but I could see that he was amused by my father and our brood.
IRL, lesson learned.
Kerry at housetalkn.blogspot.com
I love this post! I’m an IRL girl all the way. I like to be able to look into someone’s eyes to see if they match the words they are sharing. When my two oldest went to college, I jumped on the texting bandwagon because it was an easy way to connect about the little things, so it has helped in that regard. I do like the opportunities that e-mail, FB, etc. provide for connecting with those far away, but at heart, I’m all about a cup of coffee or a walk IRL. It’s just me.
Congratulations of 5 years, that in of itself is pretty amazing. I agree that IRL is the best possible way to connect and sometimes people will lose touch with what is IRL due to modern technology. I sometime fear for the future generations that they will not have the same level of experiences as we did as we were growing up. One of the truly amazing IRL experiences is when cyber life overlaps into IRL. I just had the most amazing experiences with some cyber friends that have become IRL friends. you can read our story here…
http://goodlifeofdesign.blogspot.com/2011/10/story-of-how-it-all-began.html
I think that is the beauty of cyber connections, when they become IRL!!
Kathysue
Hi, sweet Sandy! Happy 5 yrs. in blogworld. I knew we started near the same time & you are a little ahead of me. I’ll hit 5 yrs. in February. What a fun journey it has been. Oh, the ups & downs of 5 years of life shared with so many wonderful girls online and in person. So glad we have been able to connect IRL several times. I treasure our friendship even though we don’t get to see each other all that often. I do agree that IRL is the best. I love those times with my friends to talk, hug, and just hang out together.
Fabulous post Sandy! Thanks for reminding us to live IRL :-). And CONGRATULATIONS on 5 fabulous years of blogging! What a wonderful accomplishment – you’ve inspired so many…