Influenced by Others and Summer Garbanzo Tomato Salad

This Summer Garbanzo Tomato Salad is delightful to enjoy or serve to guests any time of year, but especially with fresh garden tomatoes and fresh herbs.

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I think about the homes we are given and how they meet our needs. When we bought our current home, ten years ago, we had big dreams to entertain a lot of people and enjoy it to its fullest. I’d say we’ve accomplished that, and more. But there’s one thing that’s quite different between me and my husband. I’d entertain every night if I could, and so this has caused a bit of discord between us. Not in a bad way, because every marriage has things that have to be worked through, and we learn to come to a happy medium. My husband has been over-the-top accommodating of my desires to have party after party, and I’d say he’s learned to come on board and enjoy it with me. I’d never host like we do if Paul didn’t enjoy it as well. The one thing I’ve learned though, like last night when I texted him while up the street at Home Depot, if we could invite a couple over, is to not get upset or get my feelings hurt when he needs a break.

Me: Baby, can we have the ___ family over tonight?
Paul: No.

I know he’s tired, been working hard, so I get it. Earlier in our marriage I would have pressed for a “yes” … I’ll clean the house, I’ll do the barbecuing, all you have to do is show up

But now I settle in when my husband says “no” and I go with the flow.

It’s all okay, because in a few nights, or when the weekend rolls around, I’m sure I’ll get a hearty “yes” from him.

Learning from others.

All this to say, I love every chance that I get to open our doors and to invite others in. With all walks and ages and seasons-of-life friends, I love using my gift of hospitality. I’ve learned a lot from many of my hospitable friends (and I’ve told them this), and that helps me to hopefully do the same for people who come into our home.

In fact, years ago when I wrote my book, I remember at the book party honoring my friend Michelle, who taught me a lot about people and hosting and cooking—how to do it in a classy way— and more importantly, how to love people.

Influenced by others.

Which makes me wonder when was the last time I actually told someone that I was influenced by, how much I appreciate them, what I’ve learned from them, and how I’ve taken what I’ve learned and put it to good use in my life.

I think I know my homework assignment this week. I have a few people who’ve come to mind as I’ve written this post …

Summer Garbanzo Tomato Salad.

Yesterday I made this delicious Summer Garbanzo Tomato Salad, and as I made it, I honestly thought of a friend of ours who had a change of diet. Everything about this salad is just so right!

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Little did I know his wife would text me and ask me about the ingredients (because I posted it on instagram). Too funny! And we’re just now picking our first garden tomatoes. We’ve had a few here and there, but they’re coming on big time now! YAY!

I love how when we cook, we can think of others and their needs or diets, or even … I really miss them … I think it’s time to get a date on the calendar.

Garbanzo Tomato Salad |

Anyway, we enjoyed this salad for lunch. You can’t get any fresher or easier, and it’s delicious with fresh herbs.

I went to the garden and snipped some fresh oregano – which added the last flavor that the salad was really needing.

When is the last time you thanked someone for teaching you about hospitality or cooking or gracious living?

Garbanzo Tomato Salad |

Garbanzo Tomato Salad

Yield: 2-4

Prep Time: 10 minutes

Total Time: 10 minutes

Tastes best with fresh summer herbs and garden tomatoes.


  • 1 15 oz. can Bush’s Garbanzo Beans
  • 1 cup cherry tomatoes, halved
  • 1/4 cup red onion, finely diced
  • 1/3 cup olive oil
  • 1 lime, freshly squeezed
  • Salt and pepper
  • Fresh oregano, finely chopped


  1. Drain the beans; place in a bowl with tomatoes and onion.
  2. In a separate bowl combine the oil, salt and pepper, and fresh-squeezed lime. Mix together and pour over the beans and tomatoes.
  3. Mix and chill; serve cold.

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  1. Yum! Looks so good and those tomatoes are beautiful!

  2. Hi Sandy, I’ve not read your blog for a bit, but I have to say I love this post. I love how you and Paul have grown in your marriage, as have we. It is good to be able to flex and be content.

  3. Looks good will deffenily make

  4. will be making this today

  5. Thanks I like this post not just for the sentiment of thanks but also the recognition that sometimes you have to say no to things and give yourself or your spouse some down time.

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